While holidays are supposed to be full of peace, love and joy, it rarely works out that way for anyone, particularly if you are struggling with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) symptoms. Borderline Personality symptoms such as fear of abandonment, intense anger, anxiety or depression, and mood swings can make it difficult for you to fully enjoy time spent with family and friends.
Here are a few things you can keep in mind to help you enjoy your holiday season a little bit more, despite your BPD symptoms.
Wait it Out
Holidays can be a tense time for anyone, whether or not you have Borderline Personality symptoms. Expectations are high that the holidays will be full magical moments. That’s a lot of pressure!
Let’s be honest, when you put an entire family together in one small house and ask them to relate to one another one day a year, how often does that work out?
The important thing to remember is that the holidays are temporary. Often when things look bad, it feels like it’s always been that way and that it will always be that way. You might forget the highs and the joy of days that aren’t ridden with high-stress triggers such as family get-togethers at holiday time.
Practice your mindfulness skills to help you be more present in the moment instead of anxious about what’s to come. This can help you to better regulate your emotions, relax, and enjoy your time spent with family and friends.
As they say, it is better to give than it is to receive. A good way to feel present and fortunate and examine priorities is to volunteer at a soup kitchen or a homeless shelter. By reaching out to others, you not only realize your own value and the difference you’re making for the recipients, you have an opportunity to step outside yourself and imagine the struggle others are going through. Being able to put yourself in other people’s shoes is a valuable coping skill.
If you find yourself really dreading the holidays or, really, any major event that brings common triggers into play, there is help out there. A Borderline Personality Disorder treatment center such as Clearview Women’s Center in Los Angeles can help you manage your Borderline Personality symptoms, and can give you the coping skills necessary to not just survive another holiday season, but to really enjoy it.
Look for BPD treatment centers that can cater to your needs individually, and that can help you with an exit plan. Post-holiday season can be a challenge as well.
What do you do to better manage your Borderline Personality symptoms during the holidays? Share in the comments below.